A day with friends and a movie

They say, when you grow old, if you can count 5 friends who have stuck with you al through your life, then you are really lucky.

All of us have been to college and have attended an endless number of parties. But how many people from the people that we've met have we been able to call friends through the years.

Its normal to have fall outs. To stop talking. To fight and then maybe make up. But no bond can be as strong as that childhood friend that saw you be the young you and then your grown version. And then accepted it.

My husband of almost 2 years called a few of his school friend's over this saturday. We had a pleasant pizza-pasta lunch party. There was nothing fancy and nothing extraordinary about the meeting, but there was so much warmth between the friends that it got me thinking about how genuine people aren't when you make new friends in the world. Socializing is all about how much you have and how much you are willing to give. But old friends are a breed apart.

Even I, who is one known as a loner enjoyed the day. Not because of the jokes or the stories or the random conversation. It was because of the genuine meaning of friendship that came across.

And then on Sunday, I chanced upon a movie on the home network. The Time TRaveller's wife.

This movie was a great example of bonds, of the real love between a couple and the meaning of life. Life will never last forever. And at the end of it all, knowing that you enjoyed every minute of it is what counts.

The movie (about a time traveller) who kept travelling through time and his wife who said she wouldn't change anything when he told her he is soon to die, touched every nerve in me. How many couples love for love today? How many couples live to die for each other. The great increase in the number of divorces show us that love, is not what is used to be.

And there is no one to blame but us. We changed it all. We started believing in live in relationships. In dating too many people. In being too choosey about partners. We run around in circles, never really getting anywhere, but always trying to find something.

All we need is purity and simplicity. But the racing world we live in will never allow us that unless we make the effort to slow down and take a step back. To walk on the beach with our love instead of rushing through breakfast, to lie on a boat and look up at the sky on a tuesday morning instead of ignoring each other to prepare for that next meeting.

The boss can wait. The money you are running after because you think you need to earn it because it will make your life better, will not stop you from dying one day.

And when you die, noone will remember the meetings you came for. Or the days you reached work on time.Not many people will remember anything at all.

It's those few who will and who'll wish they had more to remember. And its for them that you, me, we need to live and breathe and really make greater bonds for. Life is wasted, the way we live it.

Forget the materialism in the world.

Remember the love and the life in you. Celebrate it. Because there is just one of it.

Create bonds. Be a good friend. Love your partner. So you never feel the need to change anything, at the end of it.